Beautiful flowers can add the perfect finishing touch to a variety of different aspects of your day: they are a wonderful way to bring some colour and scent to your wedding decorations. They can be as random or as coordinated as you wish: big or small; bold or pastel; dramatic or simple; traditional or modern; seasonal or exotic – the choices are endless, and they are all yours too!
As with all aspects of your wedding, securing the services of a professional can make these choices so much easier, so finding a good florist is essential. As well as talking through your own ideas, they will be able to make suggestions for blooms or colours you may not have considered, and most importantly (going back to our earlier discussion on ‘Time of Year’), they will be able to advise on what will or will not be available at the time of your wedding.
So, where will flowers feature on the big day? The answer is – as much or as little as you wish, (or your budget will stretch to) but let’s go through the key areas where flowers usually appear.
The Wedding Party: Bouquets, Button-holes and Corsages
First things first – the Bridal Bouquet.
As mentioned above, the possibilities and options here are endless. Most brides have a reasonable idea of what they want in terms of the flowers themselves as most people have a favourite bloom or two they want to include, and the colour scheme is often chosen to match the general theme of the wedding, so with your own ideas and guidance from your florist, you should be able to come up with plenty of suggestions for what your bouquet may look like.
Based on my experience, most brides tend to favour the hand-held posy style but even with this, there can still be considerable variations in size from very small to pretty hefty! Occasionally, I still see the larger, trailing style of bouquet and whilst there is no doubt this style is very dramatic and eye catching, please also bear in mind some practicalities here: these bouquets can be VERY heavy. They look beautiful as you walk down the aisle with your father, or whoever is ‘giving you away’, and back up again with your new husband (or wife), but after that, they can get in the way a bit. They are not the easiest of things to carry around, and even when you have had enough of that, they are not the easiest of things to put down either as finding somewhere suitable to lay it down without damaging the blooms can be tricky. But they are beautiful!
The hand-held posy is certainly more practical in that sense, but again, a large posy can still be quite heavy. They are however, much easier to put down or to hand off to someone else to hold for a bit!
Here’s a hint for you that you may not have considered when choosing the contents of your bouquet: if you want to boost the scent level, try adding fresh herbs into the mix. I once photographed a bouquet and every time I handled it, there was the most amazing scent that I couldn’t identify: it turns out there was a mix of herbs tucked in amongst the many flowers. It was fabulous. Rosemary, lavender, mint, thyme and fennel are some that I have seen used.
Bridesmaids: smaller versions or completely different?
Again, your choice. Very often, the bridesmaids’ bouquets are a smaller version of what the bride has, and this certainly gives a coordinated look, but equally, many brides want to ensure that on the flower front, they stand out from the crowd, so the bridesmaids have a very different and often much simpler style of bouquet. If you are having children as attendants, please keep practicalities in mind here: basket or wand style posies are much easier for them to handle and less likely to end up mangled by the time the ceremony is over, or even begins! Flowers in the hair can also be an alternative to posies for younger children, with artificial flowers or a small bag to carry instead – little girls seem to love the ‘crown’ style flowers in their hair.
Button-holes and Corsages.
Don’t forget that the men need finishing touches too, but when choosing the style for their floral accessories, please make sure you are clear on what the guys are going to be wearing on the day. Silk or linen suits, tweed suits, and satin lapels can all have their challenges for getting flowers attached. You don’t want anything too heavy on silk or linen, and getting a pin through tweed can be fun! If your man is wearing a kilt, please also consider something to coordinate with that general look and include a thistle, some heather, or maybe a piece of tartan ribbon. Same applies for other National Dress of course.
My biggest piece of advice here: keep it simple.
With very few exceptions, guys can’t handle flowers! I’ve lost count how many times I have seen a groom and his merry men attempting to put button-holes on back to front or upside down! They are not the easiest of things to fix either so small single stem styles work best: a single rose with some foliage for example. I have seen many beautiful multi-bloom button-holes in a real mess before they are finally fixed in place.
Another big hint: get magnetic fixings. These are the greatest things ever – no fiddling around with safety pins or floral pins: one magnet taped inside the button-hole and a separate one behind the lapel – bingo, job done in seconds! This also works a treat for a lady’s corsages too of course, and in addition to being ridiculously easy to put on, the magnet is also kinder to delicate fabric than pins.
And although the bride will no doubt have a heavy influence on what the guys are wearing, don’t forget that the button-hole is the accessory to HIS outfit for the day so please give him some say in it! This can of course be a dangerous thing too: I recently came across a very stylish father of the bride who was not at all impressed that he was having to wear a blue flower in his suit – but that was the choice of his soon to be son-in-law so he was reluctantly going with it, but he was definitely not impressed.
The Church: Entrance, Pews and Altar
As with all things floral, church flowers can be as simple or as elaborate as your imagination and/or budget will allow.
There are generally three key places for flowers:
- Entrance
- Pew ends
- Altar
Windows can also be a nice place for displays too if a suitable ledge is available.
Flowers near the entrance to the church provide a lovely welcome for your guests in terms of both colour and scent.
Pew decorations can be small floral displays or something like just a nicely tied ribbon works just as well. It’s nice to use scented flowers here as they help fill the church with scent and also give off scent as your guests brush past them.
If you are going to ‘splash some cash’, then my advice would be to put it into your altar decoration: this is the focal point of the marriage and it is where you will spend most of your time in the church so you get to enjoy them here!
Money spent on church floral decorations is not always just for the short duration of the service itself. Very often, couples will take some of the larger displays with them to put in the reception venue so they and their guests can continue to enjoy them through the rest of the day.
Depending on the level of decorations you have in the church, I think it is always a nice touch to leave some there if possible so those attending the regular Sunday service can enjoy them and get a flavour of the wedding that has recently taken place in their local church.
These stunning arrangements were set in the doorway of All Saints Church, Shouldham in Norfolk both inside and out – the scent was amazing!
The Reception: Tables
Your floral budget can run away from you when you get to this stage of the planning as you will usually have a large room to decorate and, as a minimum, you will want something on every guest table, and not forgetting the Top Table of course. This is where some careful planning can help save some money and hassle if you are able to ‘recycle’ any of your church displays. A nice arrangement at the entrance of the church for example, can be taken with you to form an entrance display at the reception venue too. Assuming you are having the traditional ‘Top Table’ set up, this would generally have a large flat display of blooms or maybe some form of trailing garland, but again, you can play a bit smart here if you wish. A simple way to decorate the Top Table is to simply place your bridal and bridesmaids’ bouquets on it – this obviously works best if you have around 3 or 4 bridesmaids, or more. In addition to decorating the table, it saves you having to carry the flowers around all day. You can of course keep your bouquet with you during the day if you wish and then place it on the table as you go in for your Wedding Breakfast.
Again, guest table displays can be as simple or as elaborate as you wish. A small posy of flowers on each table can be just as effective as a grand display. A good florist or wedding planner will guide you here but at the risk of stating the obvious; be careful if you are ‘going big’ to make sure the display doesn’t prevent guests from seeing and talking to one another across the table. No-one wants to be dodging around flowers to make conversation. A popular way to get around this if you want loads of flowers on the table is to go high with either tall vases or candelabras to give your displays height. Keeping to seasonal flowers can also help keep costs down.
..and if you want to ‘go tall’…
What next?
So, what happens to all these flowers when the day comes to an end? That of course is entirely up to you. It is not always practical to move flowers around at the end of the night, but if you have small guest table displays then why not let some of your family members take one home with them. Larger displays can also be given to parents or grandparents. If it is not practical to remove them at the end of the evening, it should always be possible to collect them the following day from the reception venue. Just make sure this is discussed and agreed with your planner so that they are stored carefully ready for collection.
For your bridal bouquet there are various options available –
You can of course keep it yourself and enjoy it for a few more days, or perhaps give it to a parent or grandparent. Very often brides will take the flowers to the grave of a family member who has passed and leave them there as a way to remember that person and include them in your wedding celebrations.
If you want to keep the bouquet for longer still, then there are various companies around who will dry and frame your bouquet for you, or even turn it into a paperweight or a pair of coasters!
A few ideas are shown below with links to supplier websites –
Dried and Framed – Flowers Forever
Resin Paperweight – Enhanced Resin Gifts (Hearts and Initial Letters also available)
Coasters – Not On the High Street
..and don’t forget of course that your photographer should ensure you have plenty of photographs to remember it with!